Annalisa wants to get Emarion moved into our house as soon as possible and get him fully integrated into our family. For her, adopting is providing a home for a child who needs one. So once Providence, circumstances and the foster-care system has put a child in our lives, she wants to get on with the adoption process and get it done. For me, providing a home for these boys is the most clear path I have to doing God's Will in my life--which I am not very good at otherwise. So I also think we should keep the process moving.
The rest of the world clearly thinks feelings have a much more prominent role in this process than we do. How does Emarion feel about the whole thing? I don't know. Chances are he doesn't either. With us he will be a member of a family, have brothers his own age and have a place to call home while grows up. When he goes off to college, gets a job, and finds his way in the world, he will have a place to call home.
For anyone coming out of the foster-care system, moving into a permanent home has to feel weird and uncomfortable. Annalisa and I think the faster this process moves the sooner everyone can get on with life.